Hospital Update, 6-23-23

Rick didn’t get released today – partly because I wasn’t there to learn his therapy with him. Why you ask? Why wouldn’t I be there when his dismissal depends on it? Because he didn’t tell me!!! I tried calling him for hours today – he has his phone turned off. Does this sound like your husband? Sigh.

The dogs are sticking to me like glue and do not know what’s going on. Where’s Dad? And when he gets home I’ll have to be on guard so they don’t get in his way. I will have my hands full.

Here’s a gardening failure if I’ve ever seen one. I have rooted and planted hydrangeas for years and this year has been a failure. If Emma were still alive she’d tell me I planted them, or cut them, or transplanted them on the wrong day of the moon.

Tomorrow I’m going to dump the pots.

The yard is so green and so beautiful right now.

Here’s a finish from me. The pieced back –

On the longarm –

I’m showing this to you so you can see how crooked this panel is printed. Since I’m quilting in straight lines do I follow the printing or stick to the lines? So disappointing and of course I didn’t realize it until it was on the machine and half of it was already quilted. Here it is, quilted and bound and from a distance you’d never know but I’m disappointed because I loved the panel.

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I’ll keep you posted about Rick. Here’s Heidi – about 17 years old and looking so good!

60 thoughts on “Hospital Update, 6-23-23

  1. Debra Oscarson

    So sorry you couldn’t communicate with Rick. Sounds very familiar though…
    Loved the quilt show tonight. Lovely yard.

  2. Marsha from Kansas (also NOT that Marsha)

    My husband once called me from the hospital around 10 in the evening to tell me he could have come home if I had been there. I stayed until visiting hours were over at 8:30 pm and not one word was said about the possibility of him being released. Not really his fault. So glad Rick has progressed to the point of being able to go home.

  3. Carmen

    I find that most panels are printed crooked. Very hard when they have straight edges

  4. JeanneH in the Finger Lakes of New York

    Men! sigh. Had something similar happen. My husband was due to be released, and I wanted to be there early enough to talk to the doc beforehand, but was told not to come until noon by my darling dear, so I missed the doc.

    So sorry about your frustration with quilting the panel. I’ve had it happen too. : (

  5. Henners

    Mary sorry I haven’t gotten to post until now. I’m glad Ricks surgery went well but I think I understand men & phones, etc.
    I’ve been kitty sitting a sweet kitty but I was supposed to care for two. Unfortunately the male escaped 2 weeks ago today & hasn’t returned. 1st problem is he just moved with his family about 4-6 weeks prior to a new neighborhood & he was always an indoor cat His former home is 3 mi away across a busy 4 lane highway 2nd problem is he gets Prozac rubbed on alternate eats daily for anxiety. I’m certain his anxiety is off the charts after 2 weeks of no meds. A neighbor thought she saw him today but he was so scared sneak ran into a small culvert. I’ve had a live trap out for 1.5 weeks at the new home but it’s so loud here as new homes are being built all around here…loud tricks, etc. today I moved the trap to near where a cat was sighted …Fitz, not sure. I’ve walked over 3 x to see if I caught him. Nope. No building this weekend so perhaps he’ll get brave & work his way back to his new home & Lola who really missed him.
    Keep us posted Mary on Rick

    1. Diane and the gang

      So sorry to hear about the little lost kitty. Hope he comes to
      You soon!

    2. Mary Etherington Post author

      Henners – oh no! How awful – stressful, worrisome , just such a terrible situation. I so hope he finds his way home. Please let us know! I’ve read you should put his litter box outside – not food – his used litter box. Live traps are sometimes so scary. Where’s his family – not close by at all? Oh good heavens, I’m so sorry for your worry …. And terror thinking about what could happen. I wonder where he’s found anything to eat. Use my email if it’s easier to let me know. I’ll say a prayer for all 3 of you tonite!

  6. Linda in Estherville IA

    Lynn did not have to be at any of my hospital therapy sessions. In fact, they took me for a walk, and ran thru a couple simple exercises to do, and handed me a packet of exercises…and sent m an order for exercises at my local hospital. I could have went home after one night, but opted for one extra day, since I am elderly and Medicare allowed me two nights.

    BTW, I SAW THREE FOOT CORN THIS EVENING just west of the city limits of Estherville….

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Linda – they trusted you to hear what you were told and knew you would follow orders-that’s why you got an abbreviated version of PT.

  7. Diane, Squeak, and Buddy in Central Ohio

    Some panels are definitely not straight. It does make them
    hard to use, but the messages on yours make the rest disappear😺. Great quilt show. Men—ah, yes, what is logical to them is not to us!🙀😹. Good luck, Mary. I do know what you are facing. Maybe your local
    county health dept. can help.

    1. Fiona at Ice Bear Quilts

      Hi Mary,
      Yes that sounds familiar! Hope you have got Rick home in the meantime! As a counterpoint to the ‘I had my phone off/I didn’t look at my messages/I didn’t notice’ is getting a call that begins ‘uh, hi, I’m fine but…’ which inevitably is followed by the tale of some expensive and usually avoidable disaster. Sigh. The ‘I’m fine’ bit is the most important of course (though I had to teach him te begin with that, instead of the dusaster!) but I still dread what I’m going to hear next!
      Panels can be very frau, but I don’t think it diminishes your end result: it is a super quilt!

  8. Lynn

    Mary sounds just like my husband and his hip surgery. Good luck with the recovery. You may need it more than Rick.
    I have had alot of trouble with my garden this year. Our farmers market still does not have tomatoes. I live in CA and no warm weather yet. Your green garden is beautiful even if some plants not doing well.
    Love all the pictures including your beautiful dog quilt. Even if it is a bit off. I can hardly see it.

  9. Jo in Wyoming

    At least you know he’s a-ok.
    My husband moved his phone and knocks it off the hook with his chair. Yes we have land lines, dial tone, and busy signals. So he will have to move the set back. For those of you who know what I’m talking about.
    Panels are crooked, especially close to the selvage.
    Great show today.

  10. Jeanne in Co.

    Mary, things usually work out for the best and maybe it was best that Rick had that extra day in the hospital. I’m glad he’s doing so well. I was just looking through some quilt magazines that were given to me and one ad caught my eye and made me think of you and the fabric panels that you hang outdoors. The ad is from Heat and Bond for Liquid Vinyl. It states on the can, “Make your favorite fabrics stain and water resistant, even waterproof with our innovative brush-on coating. Oilcloth Effect, Waterproof, Stain Resistant. Have you heard of it before? Loved seeing the photos of Beamer; what a handsome dog. Your quilt with the dog panel is wonderful, even though you say it is not printed straight. I have never seen one that was straight. They are still cute. Jeanne in Co. P.S. Take good care of Rick but be sure you take good care of yourself too.

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Jeanne – no, I’m not familiar with that product. Yes, isn’t Beamer just gorgeous?

  11. Susan K in Texas

    Men and their phones! Years ago I got my husband a cell phone. One of the boys had to go to the emergency room and I had no way to get ahold of him. The phone was a joke though. He only turned it on when he wanted to use it. He would often call and leave a message for me. When I tried to call him back the phone was off again. But oh my if he couldn’t reach me or I didn’t respond right away he was so upset. He’s better about it now but not much.
    I really like the quilts today. The dog quilt panel is cute but I too get frustrated with them not being printed straight.
    Teresa in Indiana what pattern did you use?

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Susan K – you hit the nail on the head! I know others who use their phone for their convenience only! I don’t understand their reasoning but it can be maddening. I’m guessing nearly every woman reading this blog could tell a similar story.

  12. Sandy

    Hi Mary, glad to hear Rick is ok, sometimes they are only good to put the rubbish bins out! (When told!)
    Just been to our quilt meeting and meet the daughter of a girl l used to quilt with 30 years ago! So now to find some photos for her.
    Went and saw my husband on our 50th wedding anniversary, couldn’t wake him up, but he was awake today when my son visited for his 79th birthday today, makes me very sad.
    Love the doggy quilt and the vine covered cottage, take care everyone ,best wishes from Sandy

  13. Jeanie S, Central Illinois

    So, it sounds like Rick is doing well; that is great! It will be so exciting for the puppies, when he comes home.
    My husband has his phone on most days, but he leaves it all over the place. We only have our mobiles, so it is important that he keep it on him. Apparently, it is only important to me. 😳🤣
    Take Care, 🥰

  14. Kris in WI

    Ha! Thanks for the reminder everyone to HANG UP THE PHONE. It’s cordless, but after five hours it still needs to go back on the base so it will recharge…and I’m the guilty party!
    Mary, I hadn’t checked my email for a week, so missed the discussion about your Bullseye quilt. People, people, people. So sorry you went through all that stress again, especially just before Rick’s surgery and recovery time. Prayers continue for your wellbeing and may there be peaceful days ahead for both of you.
    A walk through your woods must be nice and cool and your lawn looks so nice. I laugh at ours. We have white clover “ruffles” where the sun shines and then it’s just dry grass inside the shade from the trees. “They” say there is a chance for rain this weekend. We’ll see. Sad about the hydrangeas. I remember how gorgeous they looked last fall. Why not spray the potted ones with gold paint and use them for Christmas decorations. Hmm, no? OK, maybe not.
    My husband enjoyed the pet photos and laughed at the three-butt pix from yesterday and says Finn seems to be a very confident driver. Give Heidi a gentle hug from us. We think she’s lovely, too.
    Once again, thanks for another inspiring quit show, everyone. I just have to laugh at your dog quilt. Cute sayings! I’ll bet that after a quick rinse and dry, any off-kilter quilting lines won’t be noticeable, and a dog-lover would never see them anyway.

    1. Linda in Iowa

      Just a note on hydrangeas, I just cut my son’s and bring them home, put them in a large vase and they turn a lovely antique with touches of pink here and there. They stay nice for a couple years until I think there is just to much dust on them. I love my bouquet in my bathroom with my peacock adornments. But, I love the idea of spraying them gold! How regal!

      1. Mary Etherington Post author

        Linda – yes, I save hydrangea bouquets, too – every year – but I’m talking about growing new plants in the ground which I’ve done many times from cuttings of my own Annabelle’s. I’m trying to complete the row along the ramp but this time the cuttings didn’t root. I will try new cuttings. Every spring I throw out my dusty bouquets and replace them in the fall

  15. Jeanne in Co.

    Looked online and the Liquid Vinyl comes in a 8.6 oz. Jar for around $12-$13. Don’t know how much area that would cover. But after all the work and expense that you put into those quilts, it might be worth a try to see if it would protect them somewhat from the outside elements. Jeanne in Co.
    To Sandy – I am so sorry to hear of your husbands problems. It is so hard to see a loved one struggle and not be able to communicate with us. Surely not a very good way to spend a 50th anniversary. That’s why I try to encourage these young married folks to cherish the time they have together. The years speed by so fast. I was lucky enough to spend 68 years with my husband; the last year he was home with me and on hospice. I was so fortunate though that even though he was very disabled, he could still communicate with me. Sending hugs and prayers for you both. Jeanne in Co.

  16. brendalynne1

    my husband is probably worse than yours re the telephone. He politely turns it off for church but until about thursday forgets to turn it back on. SO irritating and concerning when it is to keep us in touch with each other for physical health reasons. Well my daughter got him the watch phone and he doesnt need to turn anything off or down volumnwise. It helped me rescue him when it went off from his having a really nasty fall. You might have to resort to something like this for Rick; especially with his surgery aftercare and therapy. It is such a relief for the alerts and phone calls.

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Brendalynne1 – if I don’t hear machinery running for awhile I go looking for him. He could have fallen or have an accident out in the grove and I’d never know it! I’m sure he’ll flatly refuse to any alert bracelet. Ugh

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Gretchen – Rick always says I don’t need to be there. In fact one time I was getting my coat on and he drove out of the yard without me!

      1. Melody in Wisconsin

        Oh my God Mary – I just about spit out my coffee. I am having a belly laugh at this! I can picture this so vividly. Would have loved to see the look on your face. Thanks for the laugh – you made my day. Heidi is beautiful. Also just love that JB3.

        1. Mary Etherington Post author

          Melody – him leaving me at home putting my coat on is funny now but it wasn’t a bit funny then! I called him and asked where he was going and he said his appt. He couldn’t believe I had planned to go along. That was one for the books!

  17. Linda in MI

    I don’t know why I give my husband a phone, most often its laying somewhere in the house when he is gone so I can’t call him, if he has it in his truck he has the radio so loud – refuses to wear his hearing aids – that he can’t hear the phone ringing and he leaves it in his truck when he goes in stores! Most of time he doesn’t know where it is anyway and then I hear complaints that it’s a stupid phone because he doesn’t know how to use

    As far as hospital releases, my husband will call to tell me they are releasing him, he’s just waiting for paperwork, so I take my good ol’ time getting there. Once I sat at the hospital for four hours while they were getting his release papers ready. Now, if he is at a local hospital, I tell him not to call me until they are ready to push him out the door, that’s much better timing!

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Linda in MI – we are soul sisters!!! I’m pretty sure they told Rick I should be there but he insists he can hear and won’t consider hearing aids. He is good about having his phone I must say. I’m quite sure I know how this is going down today. After therapy they’ll say he can be released but then there’s that paperwork and it will be hours so I’m taking some handwork and a book – or since I only got 3 hours of sleep last night I’ll go to the car for a nap. I’ll let you know.

    2. Diane in Maryland

      Linda, I think you and I are married to the same person…. 😂 It was important for me to reach Mike one day so I called his cell phone. I could hear a faint ringing. It was his phone in the desk drawer by me.

      1. Mary Etherington Post author

        Diane – haha!!!! Sounds like home some times and btw, thanks for your card / very sweet of you to remember.

  18. Janet S

    It sure must be a thing with these men. I really believe they want a mother more than a wife.

  19. Sue Hoover

    That sounds like so many husbands, doesn’t it? Maybe secretly he doesn’t want to come home? Realizes the burden on you? Or just plain forgetful and in his own world like so many hubbies. Hahaha! Sorry to see your hydrangeas looking as they do. I’ve always been amazed at how well you transplant them and make them grow.. Hope you have a good weekend.

  20. Ginger S

    Mary I loved your line that Rick insists he can hear and doesn’t need hearing aid. Sounds like my husband. He has all kinds of excuses..the fan is on, his car window is down, the background music is too loud. I say everything twice I ‘m sure. One Saturday morning we were going out for breakfast with my daughter.
    She told us her husband would meet us after he went to the Chiropractors. My husband said “Aaron is at Choir Practice?” We are still chuckling over that one. i think your panel quilt is just fine. Wishing Rick a speedy recovery. And yes, take care of yourself Mary. Caretaking is a big job!

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Ginger – oh, that is so familiar! When he repeats something and it’s totally off base, I just shake my head. As I kid I was very loud. (Can you imagine!!). My mom was always chiding me to talk quieter so over the years I have trained myself to speak lower – until the past few years and now I’m back to yelling! Haha!

  21. Coleen

    Your yard is beautiful. We are in NE Illinois and in a drought. Our yards look like cut wheat fields and the crops are struggling ! Pray for rain !

  22. Kathy in western NY

    Take a book and just wait it out today as the staff do their best to cross all their t’s and dot all their I’s for releasing Rick. I found just waiting for the prescription to be approved caused a delay when my husband had the viral infection, A fib and stroke 2 yrs ago. I hope his PT schedule is already in motion as Monday morning phone calls will then have to happen. Step by step. That’s all you can do Mary and do take care of your own self with a beer as it could be exhausting. My dogs didn’t even want to come to bed when my husband was in the hospital as they knew he wasn’t in the house yet. It’s amazing the sense of normalcy they like as we seem to as well.

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Kathy – our dogs are so lost – they aren’t even sure where to sleep!

  23. Cheryl from Niagara Falls

    I didn’t know your husband was having surgery as my emails have piled up. Glad he is doing well and coming home. Some men are glued to their phone. Mine is not one of them. “Don’t you check your texts, voice mail?!” Grr.
    I worked at an audiologist’s office. Mainly it was the wife/family who would insist the man needed hearing aids because they were tired of shouting and repeating. The men would insist they could hear “just fine”. After they received them, they would just be so amazed at what they were hearing. You could just see the relief in the wife’s eyes. Some would even apologize, it was sweet.
    I have never tried to grow new hydrangea shoots and I should as I have many but love them so. as well as peonies. Maybe I will try. Rain in our forecast for the next 6 days. Love how it makes everything look, and smell.
    I have never used a panel as it, always cut them up. That must be very aggravating, but you know that once quilted, only you will know. Very cute!

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Cheryl – I wish I could read your comment to Rick without him getting upset with me. Thanks for understanding!

  24. Mrs. Goodneedle

    Your straight line quilting looks great; no worries about the printing being askew. I understand, though, that would bug me too. Best wishes to Tick for a speedy recovery!

  25. Sue in Marion, IN

    Love the doggie quilt! Hope Rick is on the mend soon! I have numerous friends with joint replacements (l’m good so far, knock on wood). Several have had both knees and hips, and they say hips are by far an easier
    recovery. Two friends have recently had it done outpatient! This boggles my mind! They have done extremely well and are now pain free and I hope Rick soon is too.

    Hydrangeas: I’ve not propagated my hydrangeas, but I’ve had my eye on some oak-leaf hydrangeas at the Quilters’ Hall of Fame. Was wondering if I could start cuttings from them just this morning. I know you’ve had a lot of success in the past and the whole internet says it’s easy, so I may go swipe a couple pieces and see what happens.

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Sue – maybe mine didn’t get water at the right time? I don’t know – a complete failure but I think I’ll try it again

  26. Angie from Baltimore

    Don’t you have a mental tie to your husband so you can read his mind? I never got it either. Unfortunately it is a man gene we didn’t get. I love the dog quilt and am sure others aren’t as critical as you are. The sayings are so cute.
    As for the hydrangeas I am no help there but I could help dump the pots and call it a day. We have had a pretty steady slow rain here in Maryland and our rain table is down 10 inches but after all our wonderful soaking rain I hope we are much better. We had a horrible drought in 1999 were as the Baltimore/Washington area had 60 days of water left and I swore I would NEVER complain about rain again. Thank you God

  27. Glenda Fletcher

    Mary, I hope Rick can come home today. That is a good idea to bring things to do. Maybe sleep would be
    better as you will be busy once Rick is home. Really enjoyed reading everyones post as I can relate to your
    comments too. Was laughing at some. Randy asked me what I was laughing at. I told him and he commented it isn’t funny to laugh about that. HA HA Your lawn looks so nice and green. Something must
    be wrong that the flowers didn’t shoot out. Weird. You usually never have a problem. We got 87/100″
    of rain last night. Hurray!!! Maybe green grass will be coming. The farmers needed this. I wish Rick a
    speedy recovery. Please you take care of yourself also. Thanks, Mary

  28. Sue in Oregon

    I would try the hydrangeas again too. It has been a strange weather year and everything seems to be behind by two or three weeks. We are having dark, dreary days again after a brief warm spell. Last night was cold, but I refused to turn on the heat. Just went to bed under nice warm quilts.
    I love the Dog Quilt even with some crooked lines. As you said…you can’t tell from a distance and soon you won’t see them at all (Hopefully)
    Speaking of dogs…soon they will be happy to see Rick back home. Wishing you a pleasant and easy disconnect from the hospital.

    1. Mary Etherington Post author

      Sue – they are going to be so excited to see him but we have to get them
      calmed down so he can get into house!! Thank goodness we have a ramp

  29. Brenda

    I love the dog quilt. I am sure whoever gets it will not even notice that it is a little off because it is so cute. The whole thing with the communication and the cell phones is interesting. I prefer my land line phone to my cell phone. I keep my cell phone in my purse for emergency purposes but seldom use it. My son turns his off when he doesn’t want to be disturbed and has no land line. I remember when we had one phone hooked to the wall and everyone in the house could hear your conversations and Mother saying “You have been on that phone long enough”. I also remember party lines.

    I just love your Heidi! She reminds me very much of my Lady D. She was beautiful and her whole tummy area was white.

    Good luck with all the rehab and may your patience be increased 10 fold. Being a caregiver is so very hard. I hope you have someone who can help once in a while and give you some relaxing time so you can refill your energy levels.

  30. Linda in Michigan

    Yes, I can relate. Rick sounds EXACTLY like my husband. Frustrating, isn’t it?
    Your yard looks so inviting. It’s so dry in West MI, our yard crackles when you walk on it.
    I’ve been working on a small quilt with a deadline. If I want it in a local quilt show, I need it ready to go in a couple of weeks. Wouldn’t you know it, this morning I proceeded to sew a big fold into the backing while trying to quilt on my domestic machine. Luckily I caught the mistake before too many stitches needed to be removed. At this point, I just want the thing to be finished–no more boo boos.
    Sorry to see what happened with your Hydrangeas, I won’t try to give any advice, as I’m no gardener.

  31. MaureenHP

    Seeing your green yard makes me smile. Our grass is in need of a day of soaking rain.
    You are doing a wonderful job taking care of Rick–it’s not easy. Praying that his recovery goes well and that he heals completely. And be sure to take care of you!

  32. Kim Haggerty

    Enjoy your quilt & not worry about the panel. Most people would probably not pick up on the fabric issue. It’s time
    to enjoy your quilt as it’s completed.

  33. Vickie

    I’m glad Rick’s doing well and T know you’ll have him home soon and will take good care of him. God bless you both.

  34. Marian Stever

    Just want to wish Rick a speedy recovery and no more hiccups! The quilt show was fun. Heidi is a twin of my 11-year-old Phoebe. Love your kitties and pups.

  35. Home

    The green looks so good. It is extremely dry here. All around us get rain but it skirts around us. Fields of corn and beans are stressed. Gardens are failing.

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