My view in October – beans are out, 53 degrees, but I just can’t give up sitting on the porch quite yet. And this is what I’m thinking about this morning – thoughtfulness.
Thoughtfulness can be such a small gesture or it can be huge but whatever the size, the recipient is surprised to imagine someone thought of them. Norma brings this to mind. Sending a card is a small thing to you and me but just think how Norma is going to feel when she gets your cards! At 96 she’s going to realize she hasn’t been forgotten – she hasn’t disappeared into the care center system where her days must be long and sometimes boring.
Sending a card is a big deal – you have to consciously think about going to the store to buy the card – it doesn’t matter how much the card costs. Then you have to write the message in the card and address the envelope, all the time while thinking of the recipient. You have to find a stamp and physically put the card in the mailbox. The recipient is going to know you have thought about them.
Let me tell you about my friend Susan. I got a box in the mail yesterday and when I saw it was from Susan my heart did a little leap. Could it be……? I hurried to the house and opened the box. (She has sent me boxes in the past.). Yes, it was chocolates!!! And dog and cat treats. Have you ever bought a box of lovely chocolates for yourself? No, never. None of us would indulge in such frippery as to purchase an actual box of candy to eat all by ourselves. Not just a candy bar or a bag of candy – a BOX of delicious sweetness. And since it’s a gift you have permission to eat those chocolates one by one. And you won’t need to feel guilty because it’s a gift from a friend – they said you could eat them! Haha!
Another side of this act of friendship is that it came from another woman – not a husband or boyfriend. Someone wrote that they GIVE gifts on their birthday – at our age who needs more stuff? But a box of chocolates? Forest Gump said it all when he told us that life is like a box of chocolates – you never know what you’re gonna get.
The final side to receiving this box of goodies from SUSAN is the cost and effort of mailing the gift. She had to find a box, put the goodies inside, seal the box, take it to the post office and then pay the postage – which is a major deal these days.
And these are my musings on this gorgeous fall morning. The next time I see boxes of chocolates in the store I’m going to buy several and mail them to unsuspecting friends. And I will continue to mail cards – it’s such a small effort on my part and it says “I’m thinking of you.”