FLUFFYBUN IS HOME!! About 1 am I was on my way to bed and I thought to myself, I’ll check the mud room one more time….and there she was!!!! She was afraid of me at first until she smelled me and then I carried her up the steps. Hazel heard me and came tearing around the corner barking like a crazy dog and I could just feel FB trying to escape my arms which she did. At least I blocked the escape route and she ran to the sewing room and since I left the door open to the garage she shot out there.
I fed here upstairs in the room above the garage and to my knowledge she’s still there. Whew, I’ll be better today.
So here’s the nurse story:
Weds around supper time my RN came in to bring me a full cup of pills to take and I just couldn’t. I had eaten that omelet and pancake for brunch and I was still so full I could hardly breathe so I said I just couldn’t. She said I had to.
I’ll put them in applesauce again, she said.
I almost gagged remembering the last time she did that.
Did you read my chart?
No
It says I ate earlier today.
Did you pee?
Yes, you’d know that if you’d checked the bathroom – I peed twice since you were in here earlier and neither has been dumped.
Is the doctor coming in?
Yes, they will come tonite. you must take those pills.
I can’t and if you try to make me I’ll get up and go out to find the head nurse.
She turned around and left.
The head nurse came in and asked what was wrong.
I tried to explain it to her.
And then she said…..
I have to protect my staff. If you keep this up, you wont like what we do to you.
Such as, I asked?
We’ll call the psych ward.
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If she had done that, how would I prove I wasn’t crazy?
I closed the door, pulled my curtain and turned out the lights. I sat with my IPad all evening crying.
The doctor and NP did come in and they hinted at the exchange and they were very nice to me.
The next morning was the morning I was sitting on the bed fully dressed with my coat on waiting for Becky.
Here’s another story from the previous weekend. That was the time I showed you the cup of ice chips. I was so thirsty and had the NG tube in so I couldn’t actually drink and I was almost desperate for those ice chips. The two young RNs brought them to me anytime I asked – obviously they didn’t read my doctor’s order because when she found out that my NG tube took out as much as I put in, she was not happy. It was supposed to be clearing out the excess and I put in twice as much! I informed her that I told the nurses I wasn’t supposed to be drinking but since they were willing to bring it to me, I assumed orders had changed. Ugh.
My doctor said the next time my intuition questioned something, ASK! Which is what I was trying to do when the head nurse told me to behave or I wouldn’t like what they did to me.
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It’s a sunny day – cold but sunny and warm in the sun. I’ve asked Rick to let the chickens out but I’m not sure I got my point across. I want to see my chickens and I can if they’re let outside because they’ll come up by the house into the yard where I feed the birds.
I need a go-fer!!!
Mary I’m sorry your rights violated. I would report them highest person at Mayo. When I nurse I did realize there rights. They mentally n verbal abused you. Hope you got there .names for reporting. Makes mad you got that treatment. Very happy puffy butt got home. At least she where it’s warm.
Oh, Mary! I’m so angry at the way the nurses treated you! My Mom had nurses like yours and — unfortunately for them — I happened to be spending the night in her room because she tried to take tubes out and they tied her hands down. I didn’t want her to wake up and need something and not be able to get anyone’s attention. It’s a long story so I’ll shorten it as best I can. When a person is transitioning from this life they go into very deep sleeps. It takes a lot to rouse them. Two of them decided to give her a sponge bath at 2am and they were super rough with how they got her gown off and moved her. She never opened her eyes or said anything but she moaned a lot and had tears pouring down her cheeks! I made a comment about it and they said, “she’s unconscious, what’s the big deal?” I lost my little mind!!! Let’s just say the nurses were literally scared to breathe after I finished my tirade and I ended up giving her the sponge bath. I reported it to everyone including the CEO of the hospital. They ended up firing the nurses. I honestly don’t feel sorry about it at all. If you’re in that profession you BETTER have a massive amount of compassion and empathy for every patient regardless of their situation. Please report them.
I’m so happy you’re home and safe and on your way to a full recovery. Sending all my love, prayers and healing vibes to you.
Mary, I am aghast and so sorry for the abuse perpetrated against you by those people who call themselves nurses. Hardly!
You were abused and THREATENED!!! By multiple staff members!
I join so many of your readers to report this to everyone and everywhere you can reach.
You have credibility and communication skills here that will serve you well! You write clearly and well. You have been to Mayo for yourself and Rick during multiple encounters.
And you took notes!
Mayo treats people from all over the world, but you are a native-born American citizen. You do not speak with a “different” or “foreign” accent. Shoot, you’re practically a local! And live close enough to be nearly a Minnesotan yourself!
You have many, many nurses here on your blog and in your corner who have given you great information on how to proceed and will help you work through the system.
I encourage you to channel your inner Hazel and put on your JRT face and speak up!
Wow. So many great comments about your experience and others. I’m a retired nurse and if I had been your nurse I would have explained what each pill was for and let you decide if you could take one.now or a bit later – yes it’s more effort but no one should be forced or coerced in the hospital or anywhere.
We all look forward to hearing Mayo’s response when you report it.
Glad you are on the mend.
I’m appalled at the treatment and THREAT you experienced at Mayo. I would surely have PTSD after that experience. I hope you follow everyone else’s recommendations. Just the thought of what going to the psych ward conjures in my mind is beyond real. I’m so sorry you were a victim of abuse and lack of empathy.
I did have an experience of asking not to have a medication which was refused anyway. I was in the hospital with my second pregnancy and had hyperemesis gravidarium ( constant vomiting in the first 3 months for me). One of the medications which was a shot in the rump was supposed to help but it caused internal shaking. I’m not sure how to describe it except it was extremely unpleasant and kept me awake all night. When I put 2 and 2 together I realized the shot was causing the issue. I asked the LPN not to give it to me but she said she had to. I didn’t have the presence of mind to put up a stink, so I suffered again that night. The next morning when the doctor came in I told her what I thought was happening. She said the med could cause that reaction and took it off the chart. We know our bodies best. Why don’t medical people listen?
I don’t know when you have to return to Mayo for a follow up but I’d be uncomfortable. I hope someone listens to you. I’d expect so much more from Mayo.
I’m still amazed at how much you are doing after such a serious surgery. Heed the advice of all your retired nurses.
May your positive attitude and your exceptional body continue to heal and mend.
Hugs and prayers.
Pat in Md
Patricia -I’m not really doing anything other than sitting in a chair, laying in bed and walking around the house.
Mary, please report this. I would encourage you to call the unit you were on and speak with the nurse manager, then the Director of Nursing, and then the hospital director. I have been a nurse and the charge nurse for a long time and this is not how this situation should have been handled. Patients have a right to refuse medications. The nurse’s responsibility is to educate the patient on the meds but not force them on the patient, the RN must notify the MD of the refusal and the reason and chart that info and that covers their butt. Please make the calls, the surveys take time to get through the system and by then the nurses involved may not remember the situation. Refusing meds is not grounds for the “psyche ward”, a mental health doctor would come to see you first. (and besides there probably are no mental heath beds available and they would save the bed for a serious mental heath issue. And if you had an NG tube still or IV meds and fluids you would not be able to go to the mental health unit.) So sorry for your experience. Let us know what the managers and directors response is.
OK Mary, I read everyone’s comments so it has been drilled in that you must report the abuse and mistreatment from those women – I won’t call them nurses because they apparently didn’t take their oath to do no harm! They were bullies! You need to tell Mayo that you relayed the abuse on your blog so they know they can’t keep you quiet and hopefully they will punish the nurses for their horrible demeanors. Let us know what the administration says, maybe we need to start a support campaign to assure these “nurses” don’t continue their practices. I have a feeling this wasn’t the first time they mistreated someone.
Glad to hear FluffyBun is safe. He just missed his mama. All of my cats hide when people come over, I don’t know why other than they are cats! Love and Blessings!
Take your time to notify Mayo of the mistreatment. Right now you need to rest and recover. You absolutely should not pick up FB nor anything else. She will be fine and knows where to come for food and shelter. I can understand why Rick didn’t want to let the chickens out – it really is that cold right now and you wouldn’t want anything to happen that he can’t handle.
My son was in a supposedly ‘good’ hospital but they had a weekend staff that NOT ONCE left their desks. I went and got his nurse to give my son a shower (much needed) but the nurse wouldn’t budge. Trust me, I wrote a letter to the administrator noting that all patients were be neglected. Never heard back so I figure it was tossed.
Glad Fluffybun came home. Mayo is supposed to be one of the best hospitals in the US but you have a chipped tooth and were mistreated by some of the nurses. I can’t imagine the level of care at other hospitals!
Mary as a nurse I am agog at your Mayo experience. You must report it to protect those following you. Something is just so wrong with young nurses training for them to even approach you in such manner. I would contact administration and not give up until you get a response. And also remember to contact anesthesia regarding your chipped tooth. Honestly what a horrible experience for anyone let alone a sick person!
As a nurse, your story makes me furious!! Those nurses should have been your advocates. Yes, you may need the meds – they need to plan and create a time frame for you to safely and comfortably take in what you needed. And as a human with rights, you can refuse any medication or treatment at any time. No psych issues. You are a smart thinking woman.
To force anything in you or on you – force – is some kind of assault and battery. A crime. They drummed this into our heads in nursing school. Different states write their laws differently so it may be something else there – it is still a crime.
I am so sorry those nurses behaved so terribly. I pray they find a new career path away from humans. I pray you can forgive their horrible behavior.
Big hugs for you and all your critters.
Heidi
i so agree with everyone else on here. this incident must be reported. tell them the way you told us. if it happened to you, it has probably happened to someone else who may not be able to advocate for themselves. no way is this okay. no patient should ever ever be threatened!!!!
please please report this. i would go all the way up the chain. let the chips fall where they may.
now i’m going to calm myself down and go to bed. take care of yourself. hugs, patti in florida
Mary, look up the Minnesota Patient’s Bill of Rights information from the MN Dept. of Health. There may be a copy on the Mayo website, too. It has definitions of abuse (Including coercion which may cover the threat of the “Psych. Ward”) and the right to refuse medication which should have been followed by the health care person explaining why your physician requested the meds and what they can do for you and following up with an explanation of what could happen if you don’t take them. You might ask for a copy of your chart (would MyChart have that?) just to see what was recorded. (Speaking of which, recording conversations with any advisor seems like good advice these days. But I’m wandering.)
Especially take a look at Rights Number 6, 9, 11, 17, & 21. You may have been given (and had to sign as received?) a copy of this information during your intake, but who has time to read it all and understand it at that point! I wish you could have known some of this and asked for a Patient Advocate at the time of the meds misunderstanding. That may have put an end to the whole issue. Let it be a lesson to all of us.
So glad you can be home, but I am shocked and appalled at the treatment you received and so sorry that even this job comes to rest on your shoulders when you should be allowed to be bored watching TV and wondering which yummy protein drink to have next. You have been given great advice for former nurses and patients. Be wise. No cat wrangling!
Prayers continue, as always, Kris
PS: Glad FB is home. Is Tim the Tool Cat still in his shed or does he come to the house now? DH would like to know how he is.
Kris – what a great name! Tim the Tool Cat!!! Since I haven’t been able to go out there, I haven’t seen him personally BUT he was even very friendly with Becky – let her pet him. I think he may come into the mud room sometimes at night but can’t him to stick around. I’ve also seen him in the barn – which is where I wish he’d stay because it’s warm there. He could be friends with Mama Kitty! And I’m sure I probably signed everything- how could I not? I’ll see if I can take a picture of Tim when I can go out again – I know he has food and I put a bucket of water in the mud room for him
Oh, Mary. It was enough you were recovering from having your whole torso cut open, and then were mistreated by the hospital staff. That was just unacceptable!
Oh Mary, your story is making my blood boil! A person as loving and caring as you should never be abused like that. By law, every patient has the right to refuse meds, even if they need it. All they have to do is have you sign a form stating you are refusing the meds so they can cover their asses. You could easily prove you’re not crazy just by opening your mouth and speaking up for your self. They would be ripe for a lawsuit if they carried out their threat. The b*tch who threatened you needs to be fired! She does not belong in a profession that is based on patient care and comfort!!
Glad you found HB, I’m sure that brought your BP down.
Much love to you, Rick and all the fur & feather babies!
I am so glad you are home. Sleeping in your own bed is the best medicine.
My hubby had surgery at St. Mary’s in the 90’s. No waiting room for surgery, I just stayed in his room. The nurses never came to tell me when surgery was over, and they were annoyed that I was in his room. They said I could go back to the hotel and call later for updates. He has had 22 surgeries since 1979.and I have never just left him to fend for himself. I have never been treated so rudely and dismissively as I was at that hospital. He wasn’t any happier and said he would never go back.
On a brighter note, my sister in law had her liver cancer surgery last Friday and she was home Tuesday. Cancer is gone. May need to have more chemo, but that is yet to be determined.
So happy that FB is home.
Maybe hold off sewing for a few days? Maybe too much while you are recovering. Do you do any hand work? Redwork or knitting that can be done while watching TV?
Please take care and know that we all are praying for a quick recovery for you. (wish I lived closer – I would watch over your chickens!)
Mary – I’m glad you’re home. And glad fluffy bun is home, too.
No one should ever be forced to take medication or do anything that is or could be harmful especially while a patient in a hospital. It’s unprofessional behavior and totally inappropriate and more than likely against Mayo protocol for a RN, PA, ARNP, or MD to threaten a patient. It makes me mad that after everything you’d been through they acted the way they did toward you. What’s happened to nurses? Doctors? What’s happened to a little bit of compassion and understanding?
I’d be tempted to call the director of Mayo.
Stay safe and take care of yourself, Mary, and get plenty of rest.
Take care everyone.
Please do not leave this horrendous experience go unreported!!!!!!!
Think about it as a preventive measure. This must not occur again.
Mary,
As a retired nurse, I am sickened by this treatment. Please follow up with a report. The staff needs re-education. Terrible, just terrible. I’m so sorry. I’m so glad you are home. And now, I think maybe a few more days before sewing because you surely can’t return to the hospital! Be safe. Be smart. 🌻
What an awful experience, I’m sorry you had to experience it. Glad you found FB and hope you continue to mend and get stronger.
Mary, as a nurse I am absolutely appalled at what happened to you. I totally agree with all the previous comments……. you should be receiving a satisfaction survey — hospitals live and die by them these days. If not, please seek out the director of nursing. Please be honest. As far as the head nurses comments, she should be reprimanded for that threat. “You won’t like what we do to you?” No medical person can force you to take meds, treatment, etc – that is considered assault if they do. I can’t tell you how much this disturbs me. I would expect better from Mayo. Shame on them.
I am glad Fluffy Bun was found. Most of all I’m glad you’re home.
I am happy to hear you are home, but as a nurse for almost 40 years, so sad to hear of you experience. I’m not sure what the disconnect is with nursing and patient care is, I can guarantee you that what you experienced does not happen everywhere. If the hospital where you received your care had a patient/ family relations department, I strongly urge that you call them. You’re not throwing anyone under the bus, rather , try and make things better.
Glad to hear FB is back – I’m sure that will help you feel better, just knowing she’s okay!
So sorry about the nursing situation – I do hope you report it! They could have delayed the pills until you were able to take them and there was certainly no need to be threatening!!!
Oh Mary I’m so sorry you had to go through that. That is abuse. Sounds like a nurse who used to work in a psych ward. My sister was in a psych ward in the 70’s and they put her in a straight jacket because she refused to take the medicine. Barbaric! I really can’t believe what people think they can get away with these days. Of course you couldn’t be expected to take all those pills. Hope you follow through on this, but I can understand if you dont.. You’ve already been through too much. I always thought we had the right to refuse medicine.
Mary, call your local HS and ask if any kids need volunteer hours for National Honor Society or any group like that. Our students had to do volunteer hours for HS.
Sorry about the nurses–good thing you didn’t get in One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest! It sounds like those young nurses needed someone to be watching them. Some kids of that age do think they know everything. My mom often told this story. A new young teacher came to their school ( about 1940 or so) and everyone was very nice to her. She announced one morning that one of the veteran teachers was not teaching something correctly and proceeded to tell the others what it was, but she was wrong. Another veteran took her aside privately and tried to explain, but she wanted none of it. Later the older veteran teacher said to my mom, “She’ll never know as much again.” which is good advice to hold onto! GET BETTER and I hope you get to see your chickens:) 17* here this AM, but we made it to 28*. Heat wave. OSU lost to Michigan–very sad.
Great story – instructive!
Sad here too – we were really hoping for a win today… sigh…
Gail – I watched the game as well as the riot that followed which was very unfortunate.
I’m so glad FluffyBuns is home! And wow, Mary, I cannot believe that nurses would act like that! Sounds like the movie that Cathy Bates was in, scary stuff. I do believe you should report this, if they threaten people that are of sound mind, imagine what they do with people who aren’t and can’t speak up for themselves? It’s frightening to think about it! As Angie from Baltimore said, you should not be lifting anything, especially a squirming cat because we don’t want you having to go back to that awful place! Jan in MA
I am very disappointed in the nursing care that you have received while in the hospital. I would report that to the Director of Nursing and to Customer Service (or whatever name they go by at the Mayo). It can be considered threats for anyone to say what you were told. I have reported RNs that I have worked with for bad behavior, and this qualifies as such. A hospital gets its reputation from its nursing care. Medical and Surgical care can be wonderful but you are with the nurses 24/7. If they aren’t good, the hospital isn’t good. Mayo needs to know so they can improve, live up to their reputation. Please don’t lift or carry anything until after you have had surgical follow up. You don’t want any weak areas to occur in the surgical site.
Glad Fluffy Buns came home for a dinner.
Marthanne
Mary – I sent you the direct line to the Mayo Experience Team via text. It was so good to see you this morning. You look so strong and healthy – I hope it continues. And I know you’re ecstatic that Fluffybun is home.
I so agree with everyone else! Please, please, report this if not for you for the next poor soul that tries to stand up for themselves. If you don’t have someone to stay in the hospital with you and check everything you have no idea if what they are doing is right or not.
I was in my dad’s room when they changed his medicine. Then had a shift change and the male nurse started giving him meds and I said they have taken him off that. He said let me go check and when he came back the previous nurse had not recorded it in the computer and had I not checked he would have been given it.
Not everyone has someone to stay with them. I am so so sorry that happened to you. I would check for updates everyday and my heart would just hurt!
I just had foot surgery, the hardest surgery I have ever had and I have pins hanging out my toes. They removed stitches took all the bandages off my foot and the nurse said come this way so we can put you in a walking boot. I started hobbling because I couldn’t walk except on my heel because of the pins sticking out. She looked back and said oh I thought you had crutches, well it’s not to much further. Also I saw a lady there that had an end cap on her boot to protect pins, I asked about it and the PA (which I don’t care for at all) ( I refuse to see them I am paying for a Dr, I need to see a Dr) she said oh I dont know if we have one or not, but you can get it on Amazon. I was like really, I just had surgery and your not prepared or setting me up for success. I am not sure what has happened to our health system.
That was verbal abuse and is reportable and should be reported. They could have been more understanding and realized that your stomach has been compromised and gone to Plan B. You really do need to let someone know about this. I would think their reputation is better than that. Glad kitty is home even if she is scared. BTW. You shouldn’t be carrying ANYTHING. LIKE NOTHING especially a cat that can squirm around. Otherwise you may end up back at Mayo.
We love you and don’t want you to screw up.
This was unacceptable behavior from health care professionals. You need to relay this information asap before details are lost and these nurses threaten any more patients with such horrible words. Who even uses the term psych ward today. It’s mental health floors or clinics. Some despondent, certainly not someone who is in charge of their health care as you have clearly been. It’s up to us who experience this type of behavior to report it so that someone who can’t speak for themselves is not abused as they are being forced when there are other approaches.
I remained an advocate for my husband when he was in ICU in 2021 so stayed the duration I was allowed and then another family member covered after me. Having worked in medical, I knew short staffing was an issue and also a friend had lost her husband earlier that year when he had a hip replacement and the nurses did not secure him in a chair, left him, he fell, needed to be operated on again and never recovered from that fall. Of course when she addressed it with hospital administrators and her lawyer, it all came back to staff shortage during Covid and aides not doing job’s correctly. So the first time in ICU when they got my husband up after 5 days and let him sit in a chair after he took his first steps, of course I stayed right by his side. I asked to have him secured in the chair which they thought I had asked to bring him a steak dinner by their looks.
Came time for my 4 hours to end and nurse told me to leave and I said I will once you get him back into bed, he is not staying in this chair for his first time sitting up. They said they would call security and I said that’s fine, I will go once his needs are met. I knew I could go up the chain if I wanted to ask for additional management to see as I worked for the system , just not there. The nurse said there was no one else to help her so he’d have to stay in the chair which I once again said was not an option as weak as he was and I would move him myself if she didn’t find her second person. Covid staffing shortage said again by her and I reiterated then I will stay next to him till he’s back in bed with railings up. I did and after he was settled, I left and my daughter took over next and security did show up but by then I was downstairs in the lobby. You have to be your own advocate as nurses are too busy today and doing five jobs at once.
So glad FluffyBun is home so you can rest easier.
YES! Kathy is right. Our local hospital is terrible. My husband had his appendix out there even though we had decided not to use them after MANY bad visits to their ER–son, husband, father in law etc. He waited from 1 PM to 11 PM for surgery because they had only ONE Or open out of 16 and some elderly women had their hips replaced due to falls, but his appendix could have burst. I pointed that out, but….
Well, he got horrible diarrhea after he came home so I took him back and the ER Doctor said, “We don’t treat diarrhea.” I very firmly pointed out that my husband had been in their OR, their hospital bed, and now needed to be back because he was sick. The nurse tried to put in an IV, but ended up with blood all over. We were there for 6 or 7 more hours and only about half of the Saline IV was in him, but he looked better so I said I was taking him home. Another, better nurse agreed so the Dr. released him. When we moved the bed to get him out, there was a huge puddle of blood under it. Never again. We will go to Columbus.
Mary:
Go on their website, or call someone, and ask to do a customer survey.
They should know what’s going on with the nurses.
The rude and inappropriate behavior of your nurse was reinforced by her nursing director. What about protecting the patient rather than “protecting” her staff! And to threaten you with the psych ward! Unbelievable…
I hope you will get a survey asking about your stay. That kind of crap definitely needs to be reported.
So glad you are home and Fluffybun too.
Oh Mary, as a retired nurse, your story absolutely appalls me. It is your fundamental right to refuse and for staff to not abide by your wishes is abuse. Yes, it is important for you to take your meds but when you say you can’t, nursing needs to abide by that. It is then their job to work with you to see what can help, to try again later. As for the head nurse, she is right – it is her job to protect her staff from abuse but you were not threatening them. You in this case were the victim of the abuse. I’m certain Mayo follows up on patient satisfaction and if they don’t, you need to place a call and tell them of your treatment. Absolutely unacceptable! Grrrr. Hope you can hear me screaming. Please follow up on this to help the next patient… So glad you are home!
I’m so sorry for the way you were treated. There’s no excuse for it. And to think you were threatened with the psych ward. Really? Please file a complaint and make your voice heard. This is not the care we expect from the top ranked hospital in the nation.
that is positively frightening! i am so sorry you had to go through that rotten experience. i have heard it said that every hospital patient needs an advocate – family or friend- these days. what a glaringly true example you endured. frightening in the least, nightmare and ptsd material
I would file a complaint with the hospital ombudsman or appropriate person. Threats just because you couldn’t gag down pills is outrageous.
I’m so glad you’re home and glad Fluffybun showed up. Too bad you can’t fire Rick and hire that go-fer!😏
{{ Mary }} I am so sorry that you were treated so badly; no one should ever be treated like a misbehaving child or threatened, particularly when they are in a vulnerable position. There are no excuses, and I hope that you are comfortable with explaining to whoever needs to be aware of this. Clearly the one nurse misrepresented the situation to the head nurse and to the doctor, as even the sharpest tone of voice does not require “protection” of the staff.
For what its worth, I know that my Southern upbringing prevents me from speaking up and speaking directly when I should be a stronger advocate for myself. That said, I can be very fierce when I am advocating for one of my people. My family says that it is God’s little joke that so many of my children are healthcare professionals given my disregard for the medical establishment as a whole!
You know, I was thinking about this a little more, and it occurred to me that I need to learn to act like my children! They record everything on their phones. I mean, everything. Traffic stop? Record it. Instructions from a nurse? Record it. Being told off by a store clerk? Record it. I need to learn how to get that record button clicked quickly and then remember to record everything.
Susan, we have a family member who keeps her cell phone next to her now to record when her boss calls as there have been too many threatening messages said that later are denied saying or had never occurred. Cell phones are admissible in so many court cases. We should not become complacent.
Susan,
Your reminder to record instructions could not have come at a better time. Having been to many doctor visits, their instructions can easily be misinterpreted when a lot is going on. Thank you.
It makes me VERY upset that you were treated this way. Basically the head nurse threatened you with fear tactics. She should have listened to you! And helped you. Not tried to force you to do something that your body told you would not be good. Her behavior and treatment towards you is not only unethical it also may be counter to hospital policy. Please make a formal complaint. The authorities must know. If she did this to you then she’s done it before.
Hi Mary, unbelievable that nurses would behave like that! Glad fluffy buns is ok,children and fur babies give you Grey hair worrying about them! So tired after our guild Christmas lunch l fell asleep twice (once l got home) and spilt my cup of tea both times! Will ring the sleep clinic on Monday to see if l can get my results and some help. Take care Mary, don’t overdo it! Best wishes from Sandy
Sometimes I don’t think they read charts. Glad you are home and feeling somewhat better. When my husband was in ICU for a number of weeks and then transferred to the ward the nurse came in and claimed he had COPD which he did not. Needless to say when she read the chart she came back in and said you were right. I guess I was right I had been at ICU every day for about 5 weeks. Sorry you had those bad experiences at the hospital. I think sometimes the staff needs more training in understanding how people feel when they are not feeling well. Wishful thinking I am sure. Have a great day.
For such a well-known hospital you would think they would have the best of nurses. Obviously, that is not true. Maybe they forgot the purpose of their position.
You should have been visited by a patient advocate! Anytime I’ve been in the hospital one has come by to see how things are going! It’s not too late to make a complaint. It might help someone else. Another thing to think about is the conversation about not taking the medication. After that you could have requested an immediate visit from the doctor. It sounds like it was terrible. I’m so sorry.
WOW! Unbelievable. and sorry…but I had to laugh when you asked how you would prove you weren’t crazy if the nurse called the psych ward.
WOW, I have never heard nurses talk like that, that is uncalled for. the only time i wanted to hurt a nurse is when I was having a miscarriage and I was crying and a male nurse came in and started yelling at me because I was crying, that was 42 years ago and I still want to hurt him.
Glad your home and comfortable and soon healed
Have you considered filing a formal complaint with nursing director? I had a bad experience with a hospital PT when I had knee replacement surgery and filed a complaint with the PT director. She was very gracious and assured me it would be addressed. She also told me for the future that I never had to accept poor or unsatisfactory care from any hospital staff. Since the head nurse wasn’t cooperative, go over her head.